Basic Vedic Culture
In the past at weddings, there were in many cases thousands of people invited for the wedding functions. The whole village/Town people were invited. This is the Vedic culture and tradition for weddings.
Now days only a few are invited at weddings. The modern mentality is to have the wedding at the most expensive place and invite just a few, because it’s too expensive to invite many. The idea is to show off by having the wedding in an expensive venue. In many weddings, the couple families have known some people for more than 30 years, but they will not get invited, due to the limited mentality of inviting a few. For example, Instead of buying and giving 100 items to 100 people, 1 each. The modern mentality is to buy the same item but wrapped in very expensive wrapping paper and get only 10 items for the same cost as buying 100 items with no wrapping. Then give only to 10 people and forget the other 90 people. Everything is for showing off to others, no real feelings, nor love for anyone.
Why Were Marriages a Success in the Past?
Here is one practical answer.
In the past, marriages were a success, because everyone was invited and well taken care of. The result of this is that everyone blessed the couple with success and there was success. Now days, most friends/relatives are not invited and thus there are very few blessings and many curses from those who have not been invited. The result is failure, marriage problems and divorce.
On should hold a function at a reasonable cost venue and invite more people, instead of holding at very expensive venue and inviting only a few. Show love, not money spending power. It is love that will make people truly happy, not show of money spending power.
Believe it or not but blessings and cursing do work. The science behind this is that God satisfies our wishes and desires to certain degree. We should always bless others a healthy, peaceful, and spiritual life with God in the center. We should never curse others, even if they don’t invite you.
The Vedic culture is that people should have the heart to want to serve people by inviting them, and feeding them. Now days, some people have no heart. If a visitor calls, they are told not to come. In the past, it was normal for people to host more than 100 people for lunch/dinner. Now days if someone calls a friend and tells them that 20 are coming for lunch/dinner. The friend would have a heart attack, he cannot conceive serving just 20 people.
In the past, there were many who used to have the heart to feed the whole village/town on a regular basis at least once a year. Now days, for many, it’s beyond their wildest thinking to invite the whole village/town.
When Someone is Sick
If someone is sick, the Vedic culture is to visit them in person and not on silly face books, and do something to help them, like taking food items, and physically nursing them. Now days, when someone is sick, some people will simply phone and wish them speedy recovery. That’s all, there is no physical presence. Sweet words don’t help anyone, It’s the physical actions that help people.
Visiting Cement Buildings Results in Materialistic Mentality
In the past, people used to visit people, this is the Vedic culture. By visiting people, there is at least guidance from others which is very important. By visiting old people, one will get many good ideas on tackling life situations, because the old have been through it and they can save others a lot of hassle, time, money, and energy. Now days, most people have no interest in visiting people, they only want to visit cement buildings and Cities. Unfortunately, Cities and buildings give no guidance and only make the mind more materialistic. Everyone needs good guidance in life at every stage of his/her life. The guidance only comes from other people and not buildings and cities.
it’s due to the modern mentality that the lives of people have become more complex, high stress, non-compatible, and more disagreements in marriage, friendships, and business.
Compassion and service to others are two very important aspects of Vedic culture. By giving what one has to others is renunciation of material life, the qualification for entry to the spiritual manifestation. By serving others, one becomes humble, another qualification for entrance to the spiritual manifestation.
“Those who are free from false prestige, illusion and false association, who understand the eternal, who are done with material lust, who are freed from the dualities of happiness and distress, and who, unbewildered, know how to surrender unto the Supreme Person attain to that eternal kingdom. That supreme abode of Mine is not illumined by the sun or moon, nor by ﬁre or electricity. Those who reach it never return to this material world.” (Lord Krishna, Bhagavad-Gita 15.5-6)